Truth, Like Fire, Purifies Everything
I’ve got two non-fiction books in the bag now. My first one – Between Heaven and Earth: A Journey with my Grandfather – came out in November 2021 and my second one – I Always Wanted To Be A Dad: Men Without Children – in August this year. On the face of it, two very different, unconnected projects, apart from the fact that I wrote them both.
Nevertheless, I asked myself, wasn’t there some kind of link thematically. So, I delved deeper into my own words to see if the books weren’t somehow closer than I first imagined.
My maverick grandad Stanley James – cowboy, adventurer, soldier, priest, communist, philanderer, pacificist and Catholic convert – is the subject of my first work. I’m a bit loath to call it a biography because in it I have dramatized my own research; indeed, I appear in it.
You see, my grandfather died seven months after I was born so I don’t remember him and certainly didn’t know him. But, despite the fact that he had seven children, one of whom was my mother, and that he was a highly regarded writer, the family hardly ever mentioned him. By the time I came to write the book of his life, all his children – my mother, uncles and aunts – had passed away. It was too late to find out from them if something was being hushed up.
All I had to go on was his books, including two autobiographies, and thousands of articles and letters. If I hadn’t had those, I couldn’t have written the book. But gaping questions remained unanswered. Just why had the family been so steadfastly silent?
It fell to me to document his life for the first time. Gradually the curtains were drawn back and I was taken to some unexpected places. Clearly, there were secrets to unlock. Throughout his literary output, it emerged – after some painstaking research (by the way, I enjoyed the investigation as much as the writing) – that he had frequently embellished the truth, invented things, covered things up and even lied. Enough baggage, then, for the family to draw a veil over.
My sleuthing took me to Canada, as well as to archives all over Britain, and eventually I was able to piece together a more authentic picture. The quiet, reflective family record that I had anticipated writing had turned into a piece of investigative journalism. Despite the relative success I had in this regard, I know I still haven’t got to the bottom of his enigmatic life.
My second book, I Always Wanted To Be A Dad: Men Without Children, is all about me. The title faithfully describes the content. In fact, a seam of no-holds-barred transparency runs through the 28,000-word work. In the intensely personal chapters I unravel the pain and regret I felt when I didn’t become the father I expected and longed to be.
I have never been so revealing in anything I have written, even in those private adolescent jottings that no one else has ever seen. Maybe it’s something to do with the fact that I am towards the end of my life and there is nothing to lose in being brazenly open. The one aspect that reviewers have focused on is the book’s ‘breathtaking and brutal honesty’.
So, one book is a largely objective treatment of my grandfather’s life in the pursuit of the true facts of his life. The other is a bleak, navel-gazing act of self-revelation – full of hurt – until, finally, arcing towards a kind of acceptance.
The French author Emile Zola once responded to criticism that some of the events contained in his novel Germinal were too stark by saying; ‘Truth, like fire, purifies everything.’ As I recalled this quote, I had a eureka moment. These words suddenly provided a clue to what I was searching for. It had taken me a while to realise that the common thread running through my very different books was an obsessive, psychological need in me to be glaringly honest, whatever the cost. The first was a ruthless and honest assessment of my grandfather; the second a hard-hitting examination of male childlessness, combined with a focus that didn’t flinch from the mistakes of my own life which had contributed to this state of affairs. I had needed to wait for my words about male childlessness in I Always Wanted To Be A Dad to settle before the broader theme became apparent.
I am no psychologist so I can only speculate as to why I was driven to peel back the layers of pretence and lay before the reader deeply uncomfortable truths. More than is usually the case among writers of biography or memoir. It certainly brought a sense of power. But, more significantly, I would hazard a guess that I saw it as my mission to expose the hypocrisy behind many aspects of my childhood; certainly, a buttoned-up, claustrophobic English reticence. It was, perhaps, my act of revenge.
One final thought: I would argue that the very act of being searingly honest is in itself life-affirming, almost irrespective of the content. My two books are experiments in trying to achieve the highest possible level of honesty on the page. The works are vehicles for my own catharsis, and in this sense they were successful. One happens to be about my grandfather and his indiscretions; the other about my childlessness.
Something There Is That Doesn't Love A Wall
“No one knows their neighbours in London. It’s such an unfriendly place, so impersonal.” You know the kind of thing they say. We’ve heard it all before.
My experience this Christmas has made me wonder if these negative mantras are fair to England’s capital city. No two ways about it, my partner Sue and I have been swamped by kindness from people living nearby.
For weeks now Pete, our local garage mechanic, has been leaving bags of chopped wood outside the front door, which are perfect for our open fire. In his eighties, most days during his lunchbreak from his place of work underneath the railway arches, he wanders up and down our road. Cars are his passion and he gets pleasure from casting his eye over anything parked in our street.
After he’d serviced Sue’s Yaris, he did some extra bits and pieces quite beyond the servicing remit. He then proffered advice such as “make sure you remove tempting objects from the seats when you lock up”. All delivered from behind an abundant beard and with a softly spoken voice that belied a deceptively gruff demeanour.
We used to greet him on the many times our paths crossed. Often, he stopped and asked how the Yaris was running. Fine, we said, which it was. Starts every time, even after night-time temperatures of minus five. On one occasion I let it drop into the conversation that we had a real fire in our front room on which we burnt coal and wood. He remembered this. The next day a bag of recently chopped wood appeared on our doorstep. Then another and another. The next time I saw him delivering a bag, and I went out to talk to him. After thanking him for his quite unnecessary acts of kindness, I asked him what he wanted for it. “Nothing,” he said. “It gives me something to do at the weekend. I’m doing some for my boss so I thought I’d do some for you, too.” I gave him a bottle of Laphroaig for Christmas.
I needed to buy a car and he offered his free advice. “Get another Yaris,” he said. “Toyotas are reliable and so are Hyundai.” When I went to a dealer in Romford there was a Hyundai with just 25,000 miles on the clock so I bought it. It runs really well – and it starts every time. Thanks, Pete.
On Christmas Day itself we were lazy and we still hadn’t cooked or eaten much by six in the evening. Sue is restricted as to what she can eat and it was always going to be a simple meal. Then there was a knock on the door and there were our neighbours – Liudmyla from Ukraine and Marius from Lithuania – standing in the dark of the porch. They were holding out something on a plate which turned out to be part of a joint of beef surrounded by sweet-smelling roasted veg. There was also a bowl of potato salad and some wafer biscuits on offer. Oh yes, and a packet of sweets. “Happy Christmas,” they chorused. “We are Catholics in our countries and this is how we celebrate. The wafers are usually for Eucharist service.”
How did they know that we were tired out and the last thing we wanted to do was cook a meal? Now we had one – still hot and ready to eat. We had nothing for them. But we took it in and sat down to eat it. It was a lovely piece of beef. I, for one, was overwhelmed by their generosity. They knew Sue was ill and this was their response.
Flowers and a card from Danny and Katie, a homemade card from Rod over the road and a card and a box of chocolates from our Polish cleaner. Just before Christmas Sue contracted Covid and was still testing positive on the day itself. She was drained of energy, the virus coming on top of the chemotherapy treatment she was having for breast cancer. The festival had taken up residence elsewhere. But our neighbours lifted our spirits, even more so because their kindness was so unexpected. What’s more, it was appropriate, providing the staples of food and warmth.
I reflected on our neighbourly Christmas connections. And I thought back to the snatches of inconsequential greetings over the garden fence we’d had with them over the previous three years or so. They seemed nothing at the time, sometimes irritating even in their superficiality. But if we hadn’t given them the time of the day, the omission would probably have engendered feelings of resentment or brooding hostility, on both sides. It was almost as if the regularity of those meaningless exchanges had its own positive momentum. The human being is such a dynamic, energetic, complex bundle of sensations that it connects even when it doesn’t particularly want to.
This brotherly and sisterly love also made me think of Robert Frost’s great lines: “Something there is that doesn’t love a wall, That wants it down.” Like he so often does, with those deceptively simple Anglo-Saxon words, Frost hits upon a universal home truth, a truth that applies to London just as much as it does to, well, anywhere.
Can Your Brain Take the Strain?
After many months of not travelling very far from home, the past week or so has seen me taking train and bus journeys on a grand scale. And what I encountered was nothing less than a travel labyrinth of mind-boggling complexity. So complex in fact that I wonder if I any longer have the skills to cope with today’s Kafkaesque transport systems.
On one occasion, when I was caught in a particularly severe maelstrom of mix-ups, I even wondered if universities should offer travel degrees; getting about on trains and buses now requires top-notch powers of analysis. The old British Rail slogan: “Let the train take the strain” has been supplanted by “Can your brain take the strain?”
The vagaries are caused, I contend, by three different factors: digitalisation, which, with its own twisted binary logic, can create unforeseen errors and more confusion; excessive privatisation; and a shortage of staff, which in turn can provide poor customer service and unreliable – even contradictory – information. All these three, in 2022, are conspiring to produce a perfect transport storm.
My first trip was with East Midlands Railway (EMR) from St Pancras to Cromford in Derbyshire, with a change at Derby. I boarded the 15.02 and waited. It wasn’t until 15.25 that we left London, the reason being that there was no driver available. He was on a train that was coming in from Sheffield but which had been delayed. Passengers were told that there was no replacement driver. “We can’t get the staff,” said an official.
In addition, overnight “cables were stolen from the line near Wellingborough”, which meant the train had to slow down. Then there was the “debris” on the overhead power cables further up the line. This meant that I arrived in Derby 20 minutes late and I missed my connection. My friends were left waiting for an hour before I arrived on the next train at 6pm instead of 5pm.
On the way back, two days later, I looked at my return EMR ticket from Cromford to London and saw the time 15.09 printed on it, assuming that was the departure time from Cromford. I told my friends and we allowed plenty of time for them to drive me to the station. But, knowing the local train times, a little later they questioned it. I double-checked and saw that 15.09 was in fact the departure time from Derby. We made a lightning dash in the car but missed the train by two minutes. We then drove helter-skelter for Derby and caught the connecting train with four minutes to spare. Thank you, John! Partly my fault, of course, for not consulting more closely, but why was 15.09 printed on the ticket (which I didn’t really need to know) while I most definitely did need to know that the train left Cromford at 14.20.
A few days later I travelled from King’s Cross to Montrose in Scotland – and this is where the fun really started. My digital LNER ticket told me that all the reserved seats on the 10am train had been taken and warned me that I may have to stand for the whole of the six-hour, 21-minute journey. But there were, it told me, some unreserved seats in coach C. I resolved to arrive at the station early to grab one.
Before the platform was announced, I consulted an official. Well, he said, after consulting his iPad, your train is already in on platform five but it’s locked. However, if you head up the platform to where coach C is you can be first in the queue when the doors open. Invaluable insider information. Alertness: part of the new skill-set needed for negotiating today’s unpredictable transport system.
Well, coach C was open and I found a forward-facing window seat with a table and a green light above it which, I presumed, meant that it was available. Long gone are the days when a coupon placed on top of a seat back told you that that place was reserved and to which journey the reservation applied. Lights do everything now. By the way, scores of people were left standing the length and breadth of the train.
I broke the journey at Arbroath in order to indulge in my first Arbroath smokie – a smoked herring and a local delicacy: and a fine thing it was. All that remained that day was a one-hour bus journey to my final destination – Brechin – via Montrose. I reckoned I’d get to see the lie of the land through the windows of a slow bus better than through those of a train. It was true but I made a mistake in thinking that I could use the freedom pass that had been issued in London to get free travel on buses throughout Britain: it was not valid in Scotland.
The next day I had an appointment at 10am in Forfar, a town 13 miles from Brechin. The Stagecoach website told me that the 21 would take me there. While I was waiting at the bus stop, the driver of another bus, temporarily parked up in the bay, wandered over and asked if I was heading for Forfar. I told him I was. He checked his iPad and informed me that the service had been cancelled and so had the next one.
So many drivers – he was one of them – had resigned from Stagecoach because the company allegedly treated its employees so badly. He had jumped ship and signed up with Angus Council and now drove their shuttle bus between outlying villages. Because of the daily cancellations he had taken to ferrying stranded passengers like me part of the way to Forfar and dropping them at Friockheim where they could catch another bus to their destination. And it was free! Naturally, I took up the offer. It was another instance of how today’s traveller has to be ready for the unexpected. Could the freewheeling, unregulated days of chaotic 19th century travel be back with us I wondered.
Two days later my return trip beckoned. It meant taking the 21 bus from Brechin to Montrose where I would catch my return train to London. Knowing the unreliability of the service, I caught a bus that was ridiculously early for my train. At the train station I failed to press the stop button, wrongly assuming that the bus would automatically halt at such a major stop. The bus drove past the stop so I hastily pressed the button, only to be harangued by the driver for not doing it sufficiently early. Oh dear!
While waiting at the station, I overheard a conversation between a passenger and a railway official. It was all about the reference number for her ticket which she thought she had but it turned out to be the wrong one: it was a booking reference not a ticket reference. She was exasperated and her train was approaching. In the end she ignored the strictures of the official and boarded the train. An example of over-complicated, digitalised ticketing regulations which only serve to obfuscate what should be a simple process. So often, there are two parallel information streams: one digital and the other human and invariably they do not marry up. I hope she made her destination.
My train arrived dead on time. My ticket said I was in seat 74 in coach H but once in the carriage my reserved journey for Montrose to King’s Cross had been placed in seat 71. People were already sitting in both seat 74 and seat 71 and refused to move. I sat in an unoccupied seat and waited for the guard, who hopefully would sort out the mess.
Exasperated, he said: “Oh no! Not again! Crossed wires. We’re getting this all the time now.” I had been allotted the wrong seat because digital had not talked to human. However, luckily, my illuminated Montrose to King’s Cross seat was now vacant so he encouraged me to “move there and stay there”.
But at Edinburgh Waverley a woman came into the carriage and claimed I was in her seat. She, too, had been allotted the wrong number by the system. Happily, not every seat had been taken and she was able to take an unreserved seat for the whole of her journey to London.
Coach H was billed as a quiet carriage, which I had deliberately chosen. Actually, to be strictly accurate, LNER had sneakily called it a “Quieter Carriage” which kind of gets it off the hook. But whichever word one uses, the description was a misnomer, given the continuous noise I encountered for much of the journey. Not mobile phone conversations, as is usually the case. A party of raucous schoolgirls were screaming, playing cards and thumping their winning snap hands loudly onto the table. Later I experienced the cacophony of plastic bottles being squashed by hand and babies crying incessantly. Quiet(er) carriage? Huh!
At the barrier at King’s Cross, I was required to dig out my digital ticket from my phone and pass it over the electronic reader. Damned if I could find it. Instead, I waited for a couple to pass through the gates and slipped in behind them. They were grumbling about technology and we shared a laugh about so-called progress.
On the Tube (it was quiet – no one was playing cards or squashing plastic bottles), I reflected on my recent transport Armageddon and its causes: the triple whammy of excessive and inflexible digitalisation; mass privatisation of rail and bus companies; and a shortage of labour. All of which combine and lead to a snarl-up in the passenger’s head, not just on track and road.
Perhaps I should have used the car after all.
Ode to a Blackcap
For some time now my partner and I have bemoaned the fact that our neighbours’ garden has become unkempt and overgrown. It shouldn’t matter and it doesn’t really but nasty, unwanted weeds have taken to crawling under the fence at night to take root in our border. Then there’s the wall of ivy that has scaled the fence and is slowly smothering our climbing plants.
In what can only be described as an act of small-minded, nimbyish, urbanised revenge, we gathered up all the snails and slugs that these incursions have produced and lobbed them back over the fence. At first, we did it under cover of darkness. Then we grew bold and showered the offending plot with a regular supply of crustaceans in broad daylight.
Our neighbours are such indoor creatures that even if they had seen us out of the back window, they wouldn’t have cottoned on to what was happening. Their seeming sole use of their garden is as a smoking room after 11pm. As they scream down their phones, cigarette in hand, the issue of noise pollution is added to an already toxic cocktail. At the end of the day, though, we are probably the losers: all the slugs and snails will do is simply return from whence they came: our garden.
Yesterday I was in the garden enjoying a book in the lovely weather. I was also nursing Covid, having gone down with the bug a few days previously. I was over the worst of the disease and I felt fine, except for two things: my sense of taste and smell had disappeared and I was still testing positive. It meant that our holiday in Portugal had fallen through. And I had to self-isolate. The only thing to do was sit, read and wait.
We have some bird feeders and at this time of year they are overloaded with sparrows and starlings. The fledglings can also be seen lined up in rows on the fence waiting to be fed by their parents. We love to watch them as gradually they gain in strength and confidence and swoop to the feeders themselves where they squabble and jostle to get to the front of the queue.
We are also visited by a pair of pigeons which are massive and land like jumbo jets with their massive undercarriages on the fence, sending it rocking. Then, at quiet times at the beginning of the day, robins appear bobbing along the path vacuuming up the dropped seeds. Great tits and blue tits, too, and a squawking magpie on top of the tall fir tree. That just about completes the picture. We have to admit that no exotic species visit our al fresco dining table but that’s the way it is these days with bird populations declining so rapidly. We are just glad to be able to host something.
As I sat reading, ever so imperceptibly, snatches of bird song wormed their way into my consciousness, gently pushing aside my focus on the storyline of my book. It was a good novel so the reason for the distraction had to be good, too. It was. The sound grew louder and more insistent but that was probably my imagination as my mind quietly – and without complaint – distanced itself from the clutches of plot and character. Eventually I put the book down.
An unfamiliar, chattering, warbling song was drifting over the fence from our neighbours’ unruly garden. It came in bursts and lasted roughly three seconds. It rose and fell with lightning speed. There was something of the manual typewriter about it. Yet it was also a pretty, sweet sound like a flute in its higher register – and it entranced.
The song was coming from midway up a tree with dense foliage, so I couldn’t see the singer. All afternoon, it stayed hidden except for two occasions when I managed to spot it. The first time it was flying, darting with a slightly swooping trajectory, from one safe haven to another. The second time it boldly perched on the branch of a tree without foliage in full view. It sang its little heart out and I looked and listened, transported. On its bare branch, I could just about make out its black head, which probably meant that it was a male blackcap. The female has a brown head.
I listened for perhaps another half an hour before returning to my book. At the end of each chapter, I put down the book as my choral evensong was still flowing with mellifluous ease from the undergrowth. I phoned my partner, said nothing and let her listen. Then I phoned a friend.
Research that evening showed that the blackcap was nicknamed the “northern nightingale” or “mock nightingale”. It is classed as a warbler. Happily and rarely, its numbers are increasing in Britain, probably because of global warming. It used to migrate to warmer climes in the winter but since the 1960s some blackcaps have started overwintering here.
This, in turn, is having a bizarre knock-on effect on, would you believe it, mistletoe. For the birds who stay here, one of their favourite winter foods is this white-berried parasite. Apparently, they separate the berry from the seeds, which they smear over the branches of the host tree and this encourages growth. So, more mistletoe and, hopefully, more kissing at Christmas, too.
The blackcap is shy in every other way. Its plumage is mostly grey so looks don’t really come into it. And, like the nightingale, its fame rests on its song. And what a song that is.
Now we don’t mind our neighbours’ garden being overgrown. In fact, we prefer it that way. To be honest, we’re a little bit jealous because – without knowing it – the dense undergrowth in their garden is probably hosting a pair of blackcaps complete with nest, tiny mottled, grey eggs and, before too long, young chicks.
Oh yes, and this morning I finally tested negative for Covid, thanks perhaps – you never know – to the healing powers of my beautiful blackcap.
My Northern Star
One of the benefits of self-publishing, it is said, is the level of control authors have over their book. They can even design the cover. That last factor, instead of acting as an incentive, filled me with horror. It made me hark back to an experience I had as a sub-editor on the Independent on Sunday.
As a sub, ask me to design a page and my stomach turns, particularly if a deadline is looming. I was number two on the subs desk of the business section which meant that Matt, my superior, was normally on hand to design the front page. The business editor – a nervy chap at the best of times – invariably hovered, expecting perfection. One week, Matt handed me the job “to give me the experience”.
I don’t need to tell you that the best stories are always put on the front page, so it was doubly important to draw the right size shapes to accommodate the number of words for each story. This I abysmally failed to do, and the wrath of the irascible editor was incurred. Matt electronically grabbed my hazy maze of lines, redesigned the whole page at lightning speed with the production editor shouting from the other side of the newsroom, and saved the day. Lesson learned: I would never make a designer.
So, years later for my own book, I needed to find one. I went to Reedsy and invited people with non-fiction experience to respond. Adam, from Stockton-on-Tees, came back within the hour. Why so fast? Was he desperate for work? We quickly got into an online conversation and it transpired that he had a contract with publishers Thames & Hudson. He had plenty of work, but he also liked working on projects with indie authors.
I sent him some photos. “Good-looking chap your grandfather, wasn’t he?” he chirruped. “Make a great cover.” I warmed to this. After all, strong single images on covers within Adam’s portfolio had initially attracted me to his work.
I also sent him the synopsis and some more photos and I felt he “got” the book straightaway. We agreed a deal for him to design the cover and after a couple of days he delivered eight designs. There were many good shots of my grandfather but one in particular – one in which he resembles a Hollywood matinee idol – stood out for Adam and that went on the front and stayed there.
To soften the overtly masculine tone he put a shadowy portrait of my grandmother behind Stanley, but this wasn’t quite right because it reminded me – detrimentally – of that all-embracing maternal image that is Piero della Francesca’s Madonna della Misericordia. He tinkered with it and all was well. In the background he added the mysterious faces of two other women in my story, along with the haunting image of a real love letter. It worked beautifully. We were all but there. For the title’s typeface Adam suggested a retro style in order to capture a sense of the old journalism that my grandfather was involved in. No need to quibble over that – it was a stroke of genius.
He even anticipated potential problems with Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP), so flipped my name on the spine into a vertical format because having the name horizontally ran the risk of it bleeding onto the front or back if the printing process went wonky. With all these complexities coming to light, I was glad I’d shunned the DIY route.
It was an easy decision to let him loose on the interior, where Times New Roman was again the order of the day. In addition, he placed the words of the section headings in frames borrowed from the type of thing used in silent film placards. I had to choose the right photographs, ask a friend to turn all of them into 300 dpi, and then send them on; finally write and invariably rewrite the captions.
I had to quickly dismiss any thought that two or three proofs would be the end of it. We totted up eight proof versions. Because he was designing everything on a sophisticated Apple Mac machine, I couldn’t make the amendments and corrections myself. I had to compile lists and email them on to him. Eventually it was time to order print proofs. And just when I thought that the proofing process was complete, on reading through the pages of the book, I found a worrying number of errors: it is amazing how much more the eye sees on paper than it does on-screen.
We got there, of course. And now I have a lovely looking book. Nothing was too much trouble for my patient and long-suffering designer from the north.
Beware: Labyrinth Ahead
It’s not quite true to say that the challenges involved in self-publishing made me regret ever writing ‘Between Heaven and Earth: A Journey With My Grandfather’ – but almost. I lost count of the number of times I just wanted to send my manuscript off to a traditional publisher and have done with it.
I’m not going to pretend that it was a steep but positive learning curve, worth all the headaches and heartache. Nor am I going to be glib and say that if you persevere, you’ll get there in the end. Instead, I will issue a health warning: anyone setting out on the author’s indie route for the first time is almost destined to find it far worse than they imagined.
Before diving in, I discussed the issue with a couple of friends who knew a little about literary matters. They urged me to try the old-fashioned route before succumbing to the DIY approach. So, I tried to find a literary agent. Having scoured the Writers and Artists Yearbook online and picked those that dealt in non-fiction, I wrote to about 12 of them. I received replies from three, only one whose letter was a bespoke response – but still a no-no.
I also wrote direct to a number of publishers. Not so many, perhaps five. No reply at all from any of them. I cheered myself up by reasoning that it was all to do with Covid-19 and that under normal circumstances they would have been elbowing their way towards my book.
Now another search was required: this time for an editor. Luck was on my side. A good friend of mine, who was a successful self-publisher and who proudly claimed that his book sales were significantly boosting his pension pot, recommended Jen. Jen lived on a remote Greek island, but I caught up with her when she was in London and we agreed to go ahead. I needed a structural editor who would stand back and advise me on which parts of the book worked and which parts needed adjusting. This she did, but she tired towards the end when ‘the religious bits’ overwhelmed her. It cost me £750. No matter, she basically did a good job and I carried on where she left off and ruthlessly shaved off whole passages that were flabby and added nothing to the narrative. I also needed to reduce the size from a hulking great 123,000 words to something more like 100,000.
After the structural editing came the close, textual editing and here Jen recommended another editor friend of hers who lived in Fremantle, Australia. Ian was painstaking in his checking and did an excellent job. Cost: £400. He put me right on the most minuscule of things: for example, coming from a journalism background, I made my speech marks double inverted commas instead of single, which they are in books. Newspapers put all numbers above nine in digits – so 10, not ten. Which is how I wrote my numbers. The ever-meticulous Ian changed the lot to match publishing norms.
So, self-publishing it had to be. Now came the issue of who to go with. Amazon, IngramSpark, Lulu. Blurb, Smashwords? The list seemed endless and their websites all claimed to provide the universal answer to the stressed-out indie author’s problems. I had no way of knowing which would best suit my purposes. It was that dark labyrinth again. I sought help and advice, but I found that while some independent authors knew discrete areas of self-publishing well, no one could give me a much-needed overview.
Instinctively, I wanted to avoid the behemoth that is Amazon, but successful self-published authors pointed out the extraordinary extent of its distribution arms, tentacles which reached all corners of the world. As I wavered, I could feel its alluring tendrils encircling me and my book. Well, dear reader, I allowed this faceless 21st-century monster to have its evil way with me. One month on from publication day, I still don’t know if I did the right thing.
When Do-Gooders Do Badly
We’re back in the early years of the Twentieth Century in London’s East End. Imagine, if you will, four earnest-looking people sitting round a simple wooden table on which lie notes and coins, food and clothing. In one corner of the bare room, waiting for the ceremony to come to an end stands a group of London’s poorest.
What you are witnessing is the weekly prayer meeting of the Voluntary Poverty Movement, the centenary of whose launch falls this year. In 1921 a band of revolutionary Christians – more grandly known as the Brethren of the Common Table – met regularly in London’s Bow district to share with the needy what they thought was excess to their own needs. It was an initiative in which the rich sought to dispense with their wealth and make themselves poor.
Yet, as it played out over the next few months, this short-lived piece of pie-in-the-sky idealism constitutes one of the most hypocritical acts of do-gooding in the British charity sector.
All started well. Newspapers such as the Evening Standard, as well as many other English-speaking newspapers all over the world, covered the launch of this idealistic yet essentially practical take on Christianity. The Standard noted that the group were even prepared to “face exploitation” by less needy people claiming the handouts.
The leader of the Voluntary Poverty Movement was Muriel Lester, a rich heiress from Loughton in Essex, who with her sister Doris had been working to alleviate the conditions of the working-class in Bow for a number of years. She is best known for her friendship with Mahatma Gandhi, and it was she who hosted him on his visit to Britain in 1931.
Muriel told the Standard: “We welcome both saint and sinner, preacher and purloiner, dukes and dockers, clergy and convicts… We came into existence because we realised that it isn’t enough to give away money. We feel we have no right to possess it.”
The other three signatories were Rosa Hobhouse, Mary Hughes and the Rev Stanley James. They met in an old chapel where new premises were built later, the community centre that became known as Kingsley Hall, which was where Gandhi stayed.
But the four signatories didn’t practise what they preached. They did not “reshape their lives” as their newly taken vow of poverty stipulated they should. The press got on to these failings and lambasted the quartet for their hypocrisy.
Journalists realised that Muriel was relying on her sister Dorothy (who didn’t join the movement) for financial support. The recent death of their father Henry, a wealthy shipbuilder, had made them beneficiaries of his huge estate. Although Rosa’s husband Stephen had renounced his claims to his family’s Somerset estate, he and his wife set up a family trust which comfortably cushioned them from financial hardship.
Mary Hughes, who was the daughter of Thomas Hughes, the author of Tom Brown’s Schooldays, retained control over an inheritance which included several substantial properties in Buckinghamshire, although she did make these available as homes for the unemployed and “fallen women”. In reality, none of them had made any significant sacrifice.
Only one of them – the fourth signatory, the Rev Stanley James – had done so but the resulting burden fell not on him but on his wife and family. It is here that I must declare an interest: Stanley is my mother’s father and I learned of his involvement in Voluntary Poverty as a result of my research into his life for the biography I was writing of him, Between Heaven and Earth: A Journey with my Grandfather. At the time of his participation in this ill-fated enterprise, Jess, his wife (and my grandmother), and their seven children were themselves living out a life of poverty in a remote cottage in the Mendips.
Stanley, who was to write nine books and at the time was editor of the Crusader, a pacifist journal, wrote in his autobiography that conditions at the family cottage “were as primitive as those of a prairie shack, but no one seemed to mind”. This view was not shared by others. There was no running water, so they had to collect it from a nearby spring; and they had to live on what they could grow in the garden. The seven children were forced to share beds and sleep top to tail. Jess’s life was one of unending drudgery and hardship.
There is no evidence that my grandmother knew that her husband was re-directing the little money they had to the poor of the East End. Stanley never once mentioned that he was a member of the movement. Perhaps he was ashamed of the way he had abandoned his own family in order to pursue this idealistic cul-de-sac. Quite how much money he contributed to the cause is unknown; nor is it known for how long he continued this arrangement. One assumes that his contributions petered out.
Much good work went on in the East End in the early years of the Twentieth Century but there were also projects that failed to deliver. When grand schemes and ideas are given more importance than the people whose lives they seek to improve, the result can be disastrous – quite apart from any accusations of rampant hypocrisy.
Full Steam Ahead - When We're Ready
I never thought I’d look with longing on the unremarkable reliability of an electrically-powered suburban train. But there I was, enviously watching the untroubled progress of the good old 11.19 from Norwood Junction to Victoria.
I had been stuck motionless on my train for almost two hours. The problem? Lack of water. The steam train excursion my partner and I had taken from Stratford in east London to the south coast and back was testing my patience to the limit. The only real curve we had negotiated successfully up to that point was of the steep learning variety.
Although I knew from my childhood train-spotting days at Hatfield on the L.N.E.R. line that steam locomotives had to take on water enroute I had no idea it was so often. Then a ferroequinologist (one of the new words I learned that day) sitting across the gangway from me explained: in former times every station, at the end of platforms, was equipped with a raised receptacle out of which dangled a pipe which filled the tanks of steam locomotives. The task was performed when the train had stopped to offload and pick up passengers and it was done in minutes without anyone really noticing. Nowadays, of course, there are no such facilities. So, what to do?
The company organising our trip had to hire bowsers (a re-learned word that one) to drive to various points where a road was in close proximity to the line, whereupon – why am I using such retro language in this article? Is my mind symbolically leafing through a dog-eared copy of the Chambers Dictionary in the search for ancient yet unambiguous vocabulary? If so, I blame the psychological power that my locomotive, the ex-L.N.E.R. B1 No. 61306 Mayflower, was having on me. Anyway … whereupon the bowser was required to park up and refill the engine’s water tanks.
But the lorry had broken down, phone calls were made (thank god for mobiles) and another was on its way. Well, it wasn’t actually on its way. It was stuck in Saturday morning traffic in the Wandsworth area. Our compartment was at the back and, as I leant out of the window, I could see the whole 10-carriage train at rest, carving a gentle arc towards Clapham Junction while an apologetic plume of smoke snaked up into the damp south London sky.
A fat controller (Well, I had to squeeze in a reference to Thomas the Tank Engine somehow) had the unenviable task of visiting every carriage to explain the reason for the hold-up. What did he say? ‘We should be on our way soon. I’m sorry about the delay.’ Well, of course he said that. I must say others were being more patient than I was. Ordering two plastic glasses of bucks fizz at 10.50am seemed to be the only answer.
Another downside of turning back the travel clock to the golden age of steam was dawning on me and I should have realised earlier. When you’re sitting on a train you don’t see the locomotive. Sometimes you hear the chugging or the whistle but those sounds echoing down through past eras are few and far between. Every photograph of a glamorous iron machine is taken by someone standing at a distance. Only at Stratford (and later at Eastbourne) as the Mayflower arrived in all its glory from Southend did I experience that unique thrill of being up close and personal with the steam beast. Another trick that nostalgia played on me.
Suddenly we were off. The bowser had done its work. We passed Balham and I thought of Peter Sellers’ travelogue sketch in which the place is pronounced with two distinct syllables – Bal-ham – and delivered with an American drawl. ‘Gateway to the south’. Well, we’ll see about that.
Soon we were picking up speed and careering into Surrey. This was better. Somewhere in Sussex we touched 76mph, my rail buff told me as he consulted his mobile phone which somehow was able to track the speed. Our apple green transport of delight swept past gardens and astonished passengers standing aghast on platforms. Most were young and this was probably their first steam train. And the loudspeaker announcement – ‘If you see something that doesn’t look right, speak to staff or text British Transport Police 61016. We’ll sort it. See it. Say it. Sorted’ had never been so appropriate. The driver had some fun and whistled ostentatiously, more often than he needed to. Gatwick went by in a flash.
To complete my fantasy return to the 1960s there was one more thing I had to do, which was to lean out of the window, turn towards the front of the train and wait for smut to lodge in my eye. In this ambition I was 100 per cent successful.
Going at this rollicking pace was a bonus; a steady 50mph had been the scheduled speed until the company decided to make up for lost time. Which it managed to do handsomely. I found out later that the rail authorities had given us priority on the line. Perhaps they just wanted this green-eyed monster out of the way as fast as possible. The South Downs hove (there comes that cute language again) into view. By the time we reached Eastbourne we had gained 50 minutes. It had been wonderfully exhilarating.
It was raining on the south coast, but we found a decent enough Italian restaurant and went for the excellent fish stew and a bottle of Pinot Grigio. We returned to the station and took some more shots in which the Mayflower was romantically shrouded in clouds of steam. I was reminded of the famous scene from Brief Encounter. Of course, I was. We asked the driver if we could mount the footplate, my request being inspired by all those times that my father in the late 1950s had asked the very same thing. There we were, watching the fireman stoke the boiler, minutes before our departure.
We returned via a different route further to the east, passing through Hastings, Battle and Tunbridge Wells before re-joining our original line at Redhill. But we missed out on the beauty of the East Sussex countryside because wine-induced sleep took over.
Houses and office blocks sprang up all around us. At Willesden South West Sidings the train stopped so that our trusty Mayflower could be uncoupled. She then – yes, I think a locomotive is feminine – returned to her home in Southall.
The no-nonsense purr of a diesel locomotive was the soundscape that accompanied us across north London and back to Stratford. Nondescript electric trains rattled by and this time I didn’t look on with envy at their seamless, computerised trajectory. The gaping passengers on platforms had gone. And there were the 21st century Canary Wharf skyscrapers glinting in the sun.
What About Italy’s Chances, Alan?
At half-time, during its coverage of the Euro 2020 final on Sunday, the BBC cut to footage of fans’ wild reactions to the second-minute goal. The riotous scenes in Croydon were accompanied by shots of a special-effects steam machine. Gary Lineker commented: ‘They’ll all be steaming later. That’s for sure.’
How wrong he was. England lost and not one of the assembled, so-called experts had predicted the likely Italian renaissance. It’s not the England players who need to hang their heads in shame. It’s the BBC’s four silly schoolboy pundits.
During the break they gave no credit to Italy, who had had 62 per cent possession with six attempts on goal to England’s one. Nor did they acknowledge the tactical brilliance of Roberto Mancini, who ended up turning the game around. And if they’d been observant, they might have noticed that that had already happened. Rio Ferdinand’s misplaced optimism was the worst. He actually said: ‘Italy haven’t got any players – apart from Chiesa – who can hurt us.’
Just before turning to the second-half action, Lineker commented: ‘Half-way there, folks.’ Then he asked Shearer: ‘Can they do it?’ Our mindless, folksy hero shot back: ‘Of course they can.’ By the way, have you noticed how Shearer has deliberately developed an Oxbridge-style stutter in a pathetic attempt to invest his simplistic analyses with more gravitas?
To give him his due, the slightly brighter Lampard (Well, he does have an A-level in Ancient Greek) did advise of the importance of England keeping their discipline.
My Irish friend Liam O’Sullivan told me: ‘I watched the half-time commentary on BBC, having watched the match on RTE. It’s like they were watching a different match entirely.’
All in all, it was shoddy journalism. Radio Five have been guilty of such juvenile analysis for years. Now it’s hit our TV screens.
Oh yes and, just for the record, the comments were underpinned by lashings of the usual jingoistic myopia. Plus ca change. It got me wondering where that bullet-headed nationalism emanates from? It could be part of these people’s make-up, of course. But do the programme’s producers have a pre-match editorial conference with the presenters and urge them to churn out no-holds-barred support for the home team at every opportunity? You see, it’s all about ratings, luv.
Another friend, Robin Hadley from Manchester, commented: ‘I watched ITV. At least Roy Keane and Gary Neville bring balance to their comments.’ Later I looked at ITV’s half-time analysis. Robin was right: Keane sounded a warning and Neville said England had to be brave. Anyway, with the adverts to show, the experts have less time to make idiots of themselves.
With each ridiculous statement on the BBC the friends I was watching with groaned more and more. Punditry was obviously a mug’s game. We wondered what the pay was like because clearly you didn’t need to be that expert at football to get on the panel.
The godlike Southgate had a bad game, but no one dared say it. Why did he choose to close down after half-time instead of going for another goal? As a Tottenham fan for 63 years, I know the idiocy of trying to defend a 1-0 lead. You can defend brilliantly (as England did) and still give away a goal from a corner (which they did).
The other mistake that the manager made was to ask those three youngsters (who had only just come on the pitch) to take responsibility for the penalties. Utter madness. Why didn’t more of the senior players step up?
But you can’t legislate for penalties. Anything can happen. The point is why didn’t England wrap it up earlier? Even as they were having that wonderfully dominant first 20 minutes, I knew in my bones that they needed another goal (bitter Spurs experience there again).
And all that talk about the England team uniting the country. What a load of piffle. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I tend to think it takes more than a few lads kicking a ball about rather well for five matches for that to happen.
Then after the defeat there was the throwing of bottles, the beating-up of fellow fans and the sickening racist abuse on social media. United? I rest my case.
Book Marketing Can Be Fun
Marketing was the last thing on my mind when I sat down to write my first book. Meticulous research, getting the right tone, maintaining the correct voice, and gauging the length were all greater priorities. Besides, there was always the chance I might find a mainstream publisher and they would do the promotion for me.
After two years my biography of my grandfather was complete. But I failed to grab the attention of a traditional publisher, so I was catapulted into the self-publishing arena. Which meant doing my own marketing. I approached the task with trepidation.
I searched websites to see if there was a realistic sales target for a first-time author. I compared my figures to those of J.K. Rowling. Every hour I checked the KDP/Amazon site to see if I’d sold another book. I fantasised about how my scintillating presentation would captivate booklovers in the elegant Edwardian surrounds of Daunts’ Marylebone premises and how I would sign numerous copies of my book with a kindly, maybe slightly patronising, smile as I asked the buyer to whom I should address the dedication. The books would fly off the shelves and the proceeds would cascade in like a tsunami.
Er. No. Marketing 2021 would prove to be an irksome business, focusing on the ins and outs of metadata, bibliographic detail, long synopses, short synopses, buzzwords, data optimisation, Facebook business pages, Twitter hashtags and Amazon reviews. I blundered in, not having a clue what I was doing, often breaking internet etiquette several times a day.
After six months in this darkened, digital labyrinth and adding IngramSpark to my Amazon presence – what the trade calls ‘going wide’ – I found I had sold 160 books by some means or other. Which quite a few people said was not bad. Heaven knows how I did it. And, even more surprising: I was beginning to enjoy it.
I had a sell sheet made – designed by Tony down the road – and everyone said it looked fantastic. It was something I could wave in the faces of indie bookshops and libraries, or else send as an attachment to book retailers all over the world. Its raison d’etre was to act as an inducement for them to order copies from the big distributors.
Because this period coincided with the easing of the Covid lockdown, I could joyfully walk away from my laptop and meet people face-to-face. Believe me, there are some snooty booksellers out there. One or two looked down their noses at my sell sheet and said imperiously: ‘Just leave it there.’ Others were as sweet as sweet could be. Like Denise Jones at the wonderful Brick Lane Bookshop in London. She stopped what she was doing and in 15 minutes I learned more about marketing for self-publishers than any number of online tutorials had taught me.
It was the unexpected avenues that opened up that began to make book marketing pleasant. Like Monty Dart, an authoress in Newport, south Wales, who having listened in on my talk to the local U3A group, helped me to do some promotion in her area and meet other local writers.
Next there were the animal photos. First author Ian Cutler gave me a great review and then took a shot of his cat Bronwyn taking a nap on my book. That just had to go on to Facebook. After that, my cousin Margie found her dog Honey ‘reading’ my biography and sent me a photo. That, too, was a marketing gift. My days as a subeditor on TV Times left me in no doubt that cute animal photos are loved by all.
Bookshops in Newton Abbot and worshippers at the Teignmouth church where Stanley, my grandfather, was a minister 120 years ago ordered copies on the strength of my eye-catching sell sheet.
And only yesterday Forest Gate author John Walker said I should persuade friends to go into libraries and ask for my book. That was a sure-fire way of shifting a few more copies because one thing libraries want to do is please their customers.
I’m still embroiled in metadata, social media and Zoom. But now I’ve added person-to-person marketing to the mix. My only hope is that for us downtrodden stay-at-homes it catches on.
Road to a Nightingale
I bet John Keats never had to negotiate the Brentwood by-pass ro get to hear his ‘light-winged Dryad of the trees’. His nightingale obligingly perched a few yards away in a nearby tree on Hampstead Heath before singing ‘in full-throated ease’. Our melancholy young Cockney medic probably didn’t even have to stir from the comfort of his leather armchair. All he had to do was sit back and listen as the bird’s ‘plaintive anthem’ poured in through the open French windows of his north London gaff.
We, on the other hand, to hear our nightingale, left east London by car on a Friday afternoon. Within minutes we hit an end-of-the-week and end of Covid restrictions snarl-up on the A12, just beyond the Redbridge roundabout. We were heading for the Fingringhoe bird reserve on a raised area of wild land above the banks of the Colne Estuary.
The traffic jams continued for miles, and it was two and a half hours before we made our destination. A helpful couple out walking their dog directed us down the narrow lane and confirmed the reserve’s pledge that the birds were singing by assuring us they had stopped to listen to them just 30 minutes before.
The reserve had closed at 5pm, but we parked on a convenient patch of bare ground next to the padlocked gates, ate our sandwiches and sipped tea from our thermos flask. Here, all around us, were plenty of ‘melodious plots of beechen green and shadows numberless’ – just the kind of landscape that nightingales like.
We locked the car and ducked under the wooden fence. There was no one else about: we had 200 acres to ourselves. Essex, as we all know, gets a bad press. White stilettoes, fake tans, chavs. You know the kind of thing. The expectations of visitors to this much ridiculed county are consequently low. Long may it remain so because it means the area’s finest spots are largely untouched and are, for an otherwise densely populated region, unknown. That’s particularly true of its far-flung mud flats and creeks. Have you, for instance, ever heard of these unsung villages that we encountered on our route: Woodham Walter, Tolleshunt D’Arcy, Paternoster Heath, Layer-de-la-Haye?
Within minutes of our foray into the low-lying scrubland, pitted with disused quarries, we heard what we’d come for. Complex, creative, crazy warbling took our breath away. The nightingale’s song is an assault on the senses and keeps you tense as you wait for an unexpected modulation just as you do with a late Romantic symphony. A pause. Then a shrill explosion of notes thrown to the sky and a hopefully appreciative female mate.
We walked on and our movement caused it to fly off deeper into the undergrowth, where it commenced another recital, sotto voce this time. We spotted it, fleetingly. The nightingale is small and brown, unremarkable in every way except for its song.
As we walked further into the reserve, we heard others, perhaps three or four. It was impossible to tell, of course. Sue took out her phone and started recording, a memento of our evening which was beginning to turn into something wonderful. We had escaped the drone of traffic completely. The nightingales were accompanied by blackbirds, chaffinches, linnets and their singing increased as the light faded. Being held up on our journey was not such a misfortune after all.
We found a seat overlooking a glade – yes, it really was a glade – and sat still for half an hour. We were rewarded with a nightingale coming close and singing uninterrupted for ten minutes. Later we listened back to the recording during which, from time to time, we could hear our low mutterings: ‘Oh my god! Wow!’ We acknowledged that reliving our magical evening was only possible because of technology, something Keats had been without.
The journey back to east London was, of course, troublesome. Moments before we hit the A12, 48-hour repairs kicked off and we were diverted on to the A120 and a 30-mile detour via Stansted Airport.
We shrugged our shoulders and turned on the recording, luxuriating in the liquid sound of our lovely Essex nightingales. As we lay in bed later, we listened again. As Keats has it: ‘Was it a vision, or a waking dream? Fled is that music: Do I wake or sleep?’
Secret Love, Scandal and Deceit: When Research Tugs at the Heart Strings
Works of non-fiction are generally regarded as staider creations than their fictionalised counterparts. Run-of-the-mill how-to guides, countless self-help manuals and detailed records of obscure episodes in history have all helped to create that rather square reputation. Thrilling tales crammed with tortured souls, unrequited lovers and compelling murder mysteries leave those purveyors of fact trailing in their wake.
Think again, at least as far as biography and family research are concerned. Digging into the past, particularly that of one’s own family, needn’t be a dry and dusty pursuit. Far from it. We all know that fact can be stranger than fiction. But it can also, I would argue, be more emotional than fiction. It can stir the deepest of feelings.
It can lead to cries of shock from one’s library seat, to open-mouthed disbelief as one reads an ancient, yellowed letter, or to hysterical doubling up after the discovery of some rib-tickling nugget from the past. Because it concerns one’s nearest and dearest it has an extra frisson that fiction cannot match. ‘I couldn’t put it down’ can refer as much to non-fiction as it can to invented narrative.
BBC TV’s Who Do You Think You Are? and magazines such as Family Tree command massive audiences, testifying to the fascination that delving into the lives of ancestors has. The Ancestry and Find My Past websites have never been so busy.
The emotional power of finding out about one’s ancestors came home to me in no uncertain terms when I started researching the life of my grandfather. He came down the decades trailing clouds of glory, thanks to glowing testimonials from his family, my mother included. He was a man of the cloth in his early years – a nonconformist minister – and later one of the most celebrated Catholic writers of his generation. G.K. Chesterton was his friend, and he was appointed deputy editor of the Catholic Herald in his seventies. Stanley James’s reputation was watertight and unsullied. True, he was a tad egocentric and did little to get involved with the education of his seven children, but he was essentially a ‘good man’. At least, that’s what I thought.
One day, taking a rest from hours of rummaging in the archives, I sat back and idly did a Google search for my supposedly squeaky-clean relative. The fifth entry about him led me to two pages of a long history book about revolutionary Christians in the early years of the 20th century. It recounted how my Stanley, along with other do-gooders, donated sums of money into a pool earmarked for poor families in the Bow district of London’s East End. So far, so predictable. Then came the thunderbolt. It went on to say how three women recorded in their diaries and letters how ‘James preached from his pulpit the religion of love which must unite all, while using a small private room in the church to have sex with some of them’. My jaw dropped open. And stayed open. My research – and therefore my book – would never be the same again.
The American writer’s source was another book, which I ordered there and then. This was the edited diaries and letters of the same three young, working-class East End women, all of whom attended my grandfather’s church in Walthamstow. The book had been published in the 1980s by a feminist writer and it recorded in detail the lives of these extraordinary women who were early feminists in all but name.
But alongside their heartfelt debates about women’s emancipation and suffragism were frequent references to Stanley. One of the women – Eva – recorded the content of his sermons as well as the day-to-day goings-on in the church. Then, out of the blue, she spoke of her love for him and described how he always paid her special attention. She longed for him and ‘spent the night in a state of ecstasy’ after an evening with him. There was clearly a strong attraction between the two. Tragically, Eva died of undetected diabetes in 1916.
This whetted my appetite to find out more. I needed to track down the original documents. Luckily, that proved easy as the collection – all ten boxes of it – had just been placed in the Women’s Library of the London School of Economics. I joined the library and spent the next two weeks reading every letter, diary entry and scrap of paper there was in the collection.
It was Ruth who was the hoarder – thank goodness! She kept all her correspondence and Eva’s diaries, as well as her tickets to countless political meetings. In her box of personal effects there were her brooches, rings and a locket of hair.
One small entry in Eva’s diary took me back. Apparently, my grandfather had given her the task of overseeing a young girl’s league which met in the church hall on Wednesday evenings. Eva records: ‘I enjoyed the league this evening. Mr James looked in upon me, and his daughters (including little Kitty) were with us. The girls were darlings. I told them an Indian story and they seemed just spell-bound… Winnie, Kitty and Chrissie recited and sang well.’ Kitty is my mother, aged six. It was then that I choked up and let out a cry in the otherwise hushed confines of the library. Tears welled up. So unexpected a source – from the writings of a woman who loved my mother’s father and my grandfather. The evidence is that he loved her, too. My favourite novel, Anna Karenina, for all its heart-felt emotion, never had quite the same effect on me.
There was more. I discovered clipped together nine passionate letters from Stanley to Ruth, written after Eva’s death. In them he suggests that the two of them should become closer. He employs the Christian language of fellowship as a lever towards achieving the heightened intimacy he desires. The hypocrisy and manipulation left me flabbergasted. It still does. There is every indication that Ruth rejected his advances.
The last of the trio, Minna, did not, however, put up any resistance to his pleading. She writes to Ruth how he seduced her after they’d been to an evening meeting together in which the theme had been women’s emancipation. ‘We went into the front room alone,’ she records, ‘and he kissed me, opened my dress and kissed my breasts too, and he said how he felt I was his. He was just going away when he came back and pleaded with me, dear, to give him everything a woman can give a man… Well, dear, I did. The tears I have shed have quite washed away any wrong I did.’
I almost expected to see signs that the ink had run from Minna’s tears as she wrote her letter of confession, which had, of course, only ever been for Ruth’s eyes. But here was I, 102 years later, reading this most private of confessions. I was prying into a drama that I had no right to. I was an intruder.
But I was also learning an ugly truth about my grandfather: he was an adulterer, while acting as pastor to a 300-strong congregation. And it was overwhelming me, not because I had moral scruples about what had happened but because it had changed utterly the narrative of his life and turned my book on its head. These findings had turned it from quiet family memoir into a story of illicit sex.
On the other hand, this kind of research event is gold-dust for the writer of family history. Stanley had passed away and so had his wife. So, too, had my mother and all her siblings. I had no idea how much anyone had known, but the way ahead was clear for me. I also unashamedly hoped these revelations might give my book a more universal appeal.
I once attended a writer’s course run by the celebrated author Nell Dunn. One expression she used over and over again has stayed with me: ‘A writer must be a savage individual’. Now was the time to be just that in pursuit of the facts. The truth, with all its contradictory emotions, must out. Besides, the journalist in me told me I was on to a ‘good story’. For all its greatness, this time Anna Karenina didn’t quite cut the mustard for me.
A photograph caught my eye the other day. It showed a young man in London’s Covent Garden brandishing a pint of beer while dancing provocatively in the face of another man wearing a mask. The dancer is not wearing one and he seems to be cajoling the supposedly responsible citizen following Covid-19 safety regulations.
For me, this image encapsulated the divide between those who flout the pandemic restrictions and those who abide by them. It got me thinking about the mindset that allows such maskless revellers to act like this. I wanted to get to the bottom of it.
Rather than lazily express the unchallenged prejudices of a 69-year-old, I sought the views of others – via a simple questionnaire sent by email – across a wide range of ages and occupations. I bent over backwards to catch the views of young people by writing to acquaintances under 30 years of age. In all, I asked about 40 people for their views.
The survey was sent out just as Tier 4 lockdown measures were being implemented. The replies I received were exclusively from people over 60. I didn’t receive one reply from anyone younger, let alone those in their twenties, which is the group largely being accused of these actions. And the questions were not couched in judgemental terms. For example, I made sure I didn’t use the word ‘behaviour’. I did what I could to garner views from a wide demographic range. I failed abysmally.
My cohort of respondents, being fair-minded and intelligent folk on the whole, attempted to analyse the actions of these Covid-19 mockers in a dispassionate way. But they overwhelmingly concluded that the maskless ones had a deep-seated reluctance to obey the rules in the same way that they would occasionally flout parking or speeding rules: they understand that it’s important but if they can get away with it, they will. One respondent suggested that as young children they had never been told they have to do – or can’t do something – so as adults they’re not going to heed to what is required of them, either.
It was also mooted that, allied to this, there is the notion among non-compliers that they see such unquestioningly loyal behaviour as revealing a lack of individuality. The image of the mocking man in Covent Garden even hints that he thinks his rule-abiding counterpart is somehow soppy. The mask shunners are mostly men and, in my experience. mostly white men. Is there, then, a macho element to this? Some thought so.
At bottom, of course, this is a health issue. One might have hoped that the realisation that others’ lives – particularly those within the same family – could be put at risk would put paid to such rule flaunting. Are these people saying in effect: ‘I’m all right, Jack. I won’t die from Covid-19. And if I do contract it, I’ll only get minor symptoms, or none at all’? Everyone thought this was the case. One respondent wondered whether some people think: “Why should I compromise my lifestyle so a bunch of people can live to the age of 83 rather than 82?”
All along, I’ve believed that the UK government has failed to make it clear that many people carrying the virus may not display any symptoms. That, surely, should be one of the decisive factors in dealing with this dreadful disease. Yet it has been largely forgotten in the public consciousness. This amounts to a massive PR failure.
Ignorance is rife, too. A teacher revealed that a colleague had said to him that he was reluctant to receive the vaccine. His rationale was: ‘I’m not ill now, so I don’t need it – and if I end up in hospital, it’s too late anyway.’ He didn’t realise that vaccines are not a cure but a preventative measure. Another commented ruefully: ‘We live in an ignorant and often callous world.’
Does social media encourage these unscrupulous acts? Opinion was divided. But I would argue that the sloppy thinking engendered by rumour and conspiracy theories prevalent on wild west websites and forums foster online anarchy which can lead to anarchic behaviour. People who never leave their echo chambers do not have their blinkered views challenged.
Such articles as this often finish with a platitude such as ‘Nevertheless, most people are obeying the rules’. Well, I bloody well hope they are. Instead, I’m going to hold my hand up and admit that this survey is horribly one-sided. But, given the minimum feedback I got from younger people, it can be nothing else. If I’d received some comments, I’d have read them, considered them and included them here. But I didn’t.
A Lot Of Hot Air
I was listening to the weather forecast on BBC Radio 4’s Today programme one morning when the expression ‘rattle the windows’ stopped me short. Seconds later I heard ‘wet and windy fare’. And, before the broadcast was over, the announcer had come up with: ‘How do I break this to you gently?’
The three minutes to eight slot now sees me nervously awaiting yet more ridiculous expressions masquerading as accessible language. In the all-singing, all-dancing BBC lurch towards universal accessibility, straightforward predictions about whether it’s going to be sunny or rainy are a thing of the past.
Within days of hearing that tsunami of nonsense, I’d added more to my list of overblown (I told you it was windy), supposed informality: ‘plume of cloud’, ‘get out and about after tea’, and even this one: ’13 to 14 degrees? No way, Jose! More like three or four’.
The culprit, more often than not, was weatherman Phil Avery. I know just what you’re trying to do, Avery, but you’ve got it wrong. Your evangelical drive towards colloquialism has nothing to do with trying to make the weather more intelligible. I suspect it has everything to do with you, as a fact-filled meteorologist, using the airwaves to self-indulgently bend our ears with your own brand of repressed lyricism. How dare you foist this obfuscating drivel – or should that be drizzle? – on us!
Then I heard younger forecasters tarting up the fact that there were going to be intermittent spells of wet weather with turns of phrase such as ‘pulses of rain’ and ‘showery regime’. And, worst of all, my temperature positively soared, threatening to reach the highest reading since records began, when the forecaster slipped in unnecessary, oleaginous, get-down-with-the-people snippets such as ‘that’s the scene for someone on the school run’.
It was at this juncture that I began to suspect that deep in the bowels of the Met Office, the authorities hold seminars on how to soften the impact of unpleasant weather predictions by aping the style of the proverbial, mealy-mouthed vicar – a kind of curate-climatologist.
Nor is this phenomenon just an occasional intrusion. It is incessant. I’ve also heard: ‘The wee small hours of Monday’, ‘Lovely day – wish I’d seen some of it’, and ‘Let me get you out of the door first’. This is more than a case of popularising the science of weather forecasting. This is nanny state encroachment. This weather-lite school of approachability clearly feels the need to take us by the hand and lead us gently down the path towards some kind of comfortable, warm front of comprehension.
Leave us alone! We’re British and we’re used to hearing about nasty weather. And we’re quite capable of putting up with a bitter wind thank you very much rather than be told that ‘cold air will slump down and whistle through the rigs on Friday’ or that ‘five to eight should just about cover it’. Put your woke, snowflake language on that slush pile of soggy faux-creativity and tell us what the weather is going to do.